I’m clueless of what I should do now. I’m young, and some might say I have time, but what is time if you feel like giving up? I seem to fall too quickly. I started with this guy after having talked for a week thinking it would work. We went out for about 2 months. In those two months I felt love, heartbreak, anger, happiness, etc. We would spend days separated by where we lived and his mother didn’t want him to date, the few times I did get to see him he had told his mother we were just best friends. We fought, broke up and got back together two hours later each time. I literally tried to let him know how much I loved him and cared but behind the smiles and I love yous my heart was getting teared to pieces each day by him. Then came the last break up, and I was the one cursing and crying,broken. After a while we began talking again. He said he was sorry and that he loved me and that he regretted ever saying anything. We became “best friends”. The only down fall of all this is that he would always make me fall even more for him, and he had a girl. At one point we stopped all communications again and I began going out with some other guy that was a good friend. Since the beginning I knew it was going to end soon and it did. And then Mark came in and knew how broken I was not only from the heartbreak of my love but also the disappointment in how I had lost a friend, he broke me too. It comes to now, in this moment, that I am completely out of how I truly am. I don’t know what to do anymore, swearing off love and relationships won’t work either. Sometimes my confusion on this matter leads me to put space between me and the people I cherish. I just need some advice and encouraging words, I think. Maybe…..just giving up on everything is really the best idea. Well, thanks for….this.

Sincerely,

T. Isabella

Dear Love,

Young love is tough, there is no doubt about it. It is hard for a few reasons:

One, we are afraid to get hurt. Not that we aren’t afraid when we are older, but we get braver then. Sometimes we attach onto the first thing that comes our way. We don’t want to be alone. We don’t want to let go. Sometimes, letting us go, can be the best thing a person does for us.

Two, we haven’t learned what we really want. As you grow up, your ideals change. We change from wanting to date the “cool” guy, to wanting someone who promises us security and comfort. They change for the better. We have to date many frogs, to find our perfect prince.

Three, we have limited selection. We feel pressured to pick! What? Out of the one to three hundred people in your class, of which only half are the sex you’re attracted to? And then another portion are already taken. It is a tough decision when you’ve only met a minuscule fraction of the available singles.

Four, girls mature faster than boys. sometimes, they are just that stupid.

Do not limit yourself, be brave and don’t settle! Its ok to be a little picky, you’re that special.

Love Always,

Juliette

Dear Juliette, 

Iv’e known this man for a while and well I fell in love with him. But I’m afraid that that he won’t love me the way I love him. We always joke around and tease each other. That’s probably my favorite thing about us, is that we can always be ourselves with each other. And whenever I’m sad or upset with him, he doesn’t leave me alone until I talk to him about it. He automatically knows when i’m upset about something because the minute he says hi to me and i don’t make eye contact and smile to him, he’ll go “uh-oh what’s wrong?” Last month my great-grandfather passed away, and he said to me that i had to let him know when his wake was because he would love to come support me. And that same day only he came to my mind, and all i wanted was him. Because he is so important to me and only he can make me smile when im sad. If im mad he tries to make me laugh, and everytime i cry he just hugs me and holds me until i calm down. He always tells me how proud he is of me and of the things i do. This person is the greatest friends i have ever had and I love him to death. We even talk about how we would be the first person to be by each others side if something horrible happened to either one of us. But because we can’t see each other as much as we would like to. He always tells me that he wants to hang out with me in the summer and can’t wait for it to come. When I look in his eyes, my heart stops and it’s like I forget how to breathe. His eyes are my favorite thing about him, even though he hates them lol. But he loves my eyes and tells me how pretty they are, even though we have the same colored eyes. I don’t know juliette about how this friendship will end up. But what I am sure about is how much i love this man. Even if nothing happens between me and him the way I would want it to, I just still want him present in my life. Because I know he will hold a special place in my heart that no one will ever replace or come close to. I believe that I have found my soulmate. He has saved me in ways that every person can be saved, he has breathed life in me. That I owe him my eternal gratitude. I thank god every day for giving me a friend like him :). He is God’s gift to me. Love, the luckiest girl in the world :)

i am up to 3am making sure this letter says what i need it too. making sure it is just right. 

i know you won’t cry as much as i did, and maybe not at all. but i hope you get it. i hope i make you understand.

it’s 3am, i must be lonely.

 I’m 19 and never had a real boyfriend. There’s this guy who I have a slight attraction to and I started talking to him (I just one day took initiative and I talked to him) Well we’ve been talking/ flirting for a week now and I finally asked for his number and he gave it to me and I texted him but he hasn’t texted back (It’s been almost two hours) I should point out that before he gave me his number he was talking about his ex girlfriend and how she was treating him and I implied that he was better off without her and I’m not sure he liked what I had to say (the way I said it was kind of harsh towards her) What should I do? I thought we were doing so well (he even said I was kind of cute) Did I do something wrong? 

Sincerely 

Pathetically Alone

Dear Alone,

When a guy (or a girl, I guess) brings up his ex so frankly, it usually isn’t a good sign. Possibly used as a way to ward you off, or let you know that still isn’t over her. My guess is that he still is not over her, from his reaction to your comments.

But Love, hold out! I wouldn’t settle for someone who thinks I’m “kind of cute”! You deserve a guy who will sweep you off your feet! I know that sometimes it is difficult to wait for our fairy-tail endings. But you have done a smart thing. When you do find that guy, he will be so appreciative of you because he has already dealt with the immaturity of high school girls. And you, don’t have to bother with the idiots who roam the halls either. 

You are wiser than you were before, and your maturity will be more beneficial to you, than some guy who is still hung up on his ex.

Love Always,

Juliette